I've already written about my general hatred for The Bachelorette (you can find it here), but the ending of this season as GONE TOO FAR. I waited to write about it, mainly so I'd be less angry, but I'm still annoyed. I was so furious and confounded that it has carried over for weeks.
Why am I so irate when I don't even watch the show, you ask?
Because Desiree Hartsock is making a GIANT mistake. And young girls think that's ok.
Here's a quick recap for those not in the know:
Desiree was really into this one guy. He was basically the only person she was interested in of the three guys she had left. She was going to pick HIM. She knew it, we knew, Chris Harrison knew it, the camera crew knew it - I think the only two who didn't were the other dudes. It was obvious to anyone watching.
Then the unthinkable happened; after some soul-searching, the ONE left the show. He said he couldn't propose to her, that he had to leave. Desiree was devastated. *cue sad music* She didn't know if she go on with the show, because her true love, her prince charming had left her. Her heart was shattered into a million pieces.
Luckily, she got it together enough to continue and accept another proposal from one of the two leftovers. OH GOOD.
And this, my friends, is my HUGE issue. She was so certain that Guy A was THE ONE and when he left, he was easily replaced by The Backup. She didn't hesitate to say yes. WHAT THE WHAT?!?!?
Here is a girl who was yearning for this one particular guy, who thought that this guy was her soulmate, who almost couldn't go on AND YET she said yes to someone else when they proposed just 48 hours later. I understand what it's like to want to be married, to have a husband and start a family, but I can assuredly say I would not say yes to someone simply because they asked. Working under the pretense that you should say yes simply because you're asked is wrong, wrong, wrong. Saying yes because you're desperate to be married is equally wrong. I wanted to say, "It's okay Desiree, you can walk away from the show single, I promise!"
I almost get her mentality. Guy B (Backup/new Fiance) was nice, was really into her and he's not bad, so why not try it out and see if it works. I'll tell ya why - because you're ENGAGED. That's weighty, man. That's a promise, an agreement, to marry one day. That's pressure. Who cares if he asked? She could've said, "You know what? I'm not ready for this big commitment, but I didn't give you enough of my attention and I think you're pretty great. Let's try dating and see what happens." But, wait, I forgot, this is 'reality TV' and normal behavior is suspended.
In the end, I feel like she is going to hurt her new fiance. She was so intent on having a good ending, she made one happen, possibly at the expense of this sweet, poetry writing guy.
A person can not, in real life, just jump from one intense relationship to another and have everything work out. Yeah, yeah, I know you want to share exceptions, but I'm talking majority things here. Your heart and mind can't flip like that. On the reunion show, I felt as if the original THE ONE guy had asked her to marry him, she would have turned to the Backup and said, "Welp, it's been nice." I think Backup/Fiance dude felt the same (at least his face looked that way). It made me feel sad and uncomfortable for him and upset with her.
Take some time between relationships. Don't rush in. Don't make big commitments when you know your heart hasn't had time to catch up. Don't hurt people in order to make yourself feel good for the moment. THINK.
Oh, and don't go on a reality dating show.
~j
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