T. Swift pretty much has it made. She's in the middle of a booming music career, she's young, she's pretty, she's got a good work ethic and she seems really nice. She's kinda awesome.
But, Taylor Swift stinks at dating.
Let's really think about it: she's 22 and has had more relationships in the past 4 years than I have had my whole life. She moves from one guy to another and seems to hitch her heart on everyone one of them, regardless of their level of interest to her. It's a recipe for disaster.
When you attach yourself so easily and earnestly to every guy that finds you the tiniest bit interesting, you are setting yourself up for major and consistent heartbreak that is unnecessary. I'm not suggesting that people hold each other at arm's length all the time, but there is something to be said for actually dating someone. You go out together and get to know each other before making a commitment with your heart.
I won't act like I haven't been guilty of getting too involved too soon, because who hasn't? I know, however, how to back up a little bit and take it slow. That, I think, is a crucial thing Taylor hasn't figured out yet. In fact, she does the complete opposite. I find her a little smothering. Exhibit A: SHE BOUGHT A HOUSE ACROSS THE STREET FROM HER NEW BOYFRIEND. Awkward. Who does that? What if (read: when) you break up? Are you just going to causally sell the house or will you still go and stay there? Maybe you'll take your newest boyfriend there to show off to the old one.
Taylor is famous for taking her heartaches and turning them into songs, like any modern songwriter. While I can't fault her for that, I find the way that she does it terribly annoying. There are thinly veiled clues to the men that she's dated in her songs. And by thinly, I mean direct references to those guys. There are songs that are named after a particular man. A CD with a liner that provides hints as to who the song is about. It's mean. She's kind of a bully in that way. Break up with Taylor Swift and you can bet that there will be song written about you in no time.
I'm going out on a limb and say that maybe TS is a little insecure. She needs a guy in her life to tell her that she's pretty/smart/great/amazing. I don't know her, of course, but it seems like this is the case. And she's not alone in this desire - she's just doing it in front of an audience of millions.
I hope that watching how Taylor pretty much fails at dating gives young girls (and adult women, for that matter) pause to think. You can have everything - fame, money, adoration - and still be unsure about yourself. That lack of confidence isn't going to be resolved by having a relationship. You don't have to give your heart away like it's a free pen at a bank. Not every guy that pays attention to you is worthy of your time. Your value doesn't come from having the title of girlfriend. You're every bit as incredible as Taylor Swift is - just don't date like her.
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