We Are Never, Ever, Ever, Ever Getting Together

I have a good friend - we'll call her Single Sally - who is a power dater.  She's the self-proclaimed "Queen of the First Date." She's open to going on dates with different guys to see if there is a spark, which I support.  There isn't anything wrong with going to dinner with someone you find vaguely interesting, is there?  As long as you don't give your heart away to every guy you meet, I don't see a problem with her mentality.  I appreciate girls like her who consistently put themselves out there, simply because it takes a lot of nerve. 

Because Sally is actively dating, she has quite a few stories.  Here is one that happened recently:

Sally happened by some fancy seats at a baseball game and I jumped at the chance to go, mostly because I hadn't ever been to the swanky section of the ballpark.  Also going was a guy Sally met online.  They hadn't met face-to-face yet, but he seemed interested in going to the game.  We would all meet and ride together because she had a parking pass. 

As I was getting ready, Sally was meeting her date (heretofore known as Loser Luke or LL) and started to give me a text play by play.  LL apparently had a friend sleeping off a hangover on his couch and left Sally to talk to him while he stepped into another room.  Loser Luke wasn't saying much to Sally at all.  I didn't see much hope for this guy, but I was willing to go along with it - for the sake of my friend and my one true love, baseball. 

I left the conversation to fix my always unruly hair and came back to find I had missed two calls from Sally.  There was also a text that read, "Call me as soon as you can."  I paused my hairspray ritual to call her back, only to find out that Loser Luke decided that he couldn't/didn't want to go to the game any longer.  Basically, she felt like she showed up, he saw her and then decided that he couldn't be bothered.  He gave her some lame excuse like he had a birthday party that night and needed time to get things together or something equally lame.  What. A. Jerk.  I mean, really?!?

Of course, Sally was upset.  I think anyone in that situation would have been.  We still went to the game though, because baseball is important.  During the game, Loser Luke texted to ask how the game was.  Excuse me?  No sir.  You don't get to bail on my friend and then try to be nice.  That's not how this works.  What nerve this kid had.

This weekend I had lunch with Sally and apparently LL has been texting her ever since then.  He sent her a message a few weeks ago asking what she was up to and after she responded she was making dinner, he said it was his birthday and she should make him something good.  Just this past Saturday, he suggested that she come over to visit.  My jaw was on the table!    

I couldn't believe it.  What the heck is wrong with this guy?  Someone ate lead paint chips when he was a kid.  You basically take a look at a girl, decide that she's not worth your time and then, later, try to get her to hang out with you.  This makes no sense.  Loser Luke is diluted.  Maybe there is some underlying story here I don't know.  It may have been that he didn't want to have their first date with me as a tag-along or he thought she was too pretty for him, but it's not like he said that.  LL has never apologized or even acknowledged what he did that day,  he's never said anything.

Usually, this is the point where I would go off about how there isn't anyone good left, but I'm not today. I won't start lamenting about the lack of quality people in the dating pool, because I know there are great single people available. (I'm really talking about myself here.) It maybe harder to find them, but they exist. (Again, that's about me.) 

In the end, we all have a Loser Luke story.  Someone who just stopped calling.  Someone who said they weren't ready for a relationship and then gets engaged a month or two later.  Someone who starts dating your best friend.  Someone you overhear talking poorly about you.  Dating is hard, but when you meet a great person, all the Loser Luke encounters have been worth it.

Also, I really hope that Sally never really dates Loser Luke or I'm going to be in trouble.

Happy Wednesday,
J